What Do You Do When She is On the Rebound and You Are Not?
Did you find out that your ex girlfriend is seeing someone else and that has kind of shocked and surprised you because you had assumed that you would be able to deal with that happening and now that it has - you are finding it more difficult than you had imagined? For most men, finding out that their ex girlfriend is on the rebound is not good news. If that guy happens to be finding it hard to find someone new himself, then it usually makes it even harder for him to deal with the fact that she has found someone else. What can you do when your ex girlfriend is clearly on the rebound and you are not?
I'd say that the most important thing for you to be able to do is make sure that you don't panic about this at all. Panicking about the fact that your ex girlfriend is on the rebound might seem like the thing to do, but you know what? It's not. You are not going to get anywhere just by going on panic. You are just going to get yourself worked up and feeling like the world has ended and that you might as well just give up on the idea that you might be able to win her back.
See, that happens to be the main reason why men have a hard time to deal with their ex girlfriend dating a new guy. They really want to be able to get her back and now that they find out that this may not be possible - it makes them feel like less of a man. It takes away their hope. It makes them feel like they are never going to be able to find happiness. You do not want to allow yourself to feel that way at all. If you do, you are going to end up making things seem like they are worse than they actually are.
Yes, it may be bad for you to hear that your ex girlfriend is dating again, but that is something that you can get over if you try.
What always seems to work best is for you to take your focus off of what your ex is doing. She is not your problem to worry about anymore and even if you are hoping that you will be able to get her back, now is not the time to waste on thinking about her. What I would say is that this is a good sign that no matter what, you need to mentally prepare for the possibility that your former girlfriend is not the woman you are supposed to spend your life with. There may be another woman who will end up being much more in line with what you really want in a girlfriend.
Another thing to try is to make some improvements in your life so that you are a lot more attractive to the women that you meet. This will help you to get a new girlfriend and it also may help you to impress your ex girlfriend should her new relationship not work out. That is a good thing, because then she may be interested in seeing if the two of you can be able to work things out and date one another again.
Remember that just because your ex girlfriend is seeing someone else, it does not mean that the world has come crashing down on you or that you can't find someone else to be with. It also does not mean that you can't get her back, either. It just means that you have to deal with this in a healthy manner and accept the possibility that you might have to just move on with your life and that can be a good thing in the end.
I'd say that the most important thing for you to be able to do is make sure that you don't panic about this at all. Panicking about the fact that your ex girlfriend is on the rebound might seem like the thing to do, but you know what? It's not. You are not going to get anywhere just by going on panic. You are just going to get yourself worked up and feeling like the world has ended and that you might as well just give up on the idea that you might be able to win her back.
See, that happens to be the main reason why men have a hard time to deal with their ex girlfriend dating a new guy. They really want to be able to get her back and now that they find out that this may not be possible - it makes them feel like less of a man. It takes away their hope. It makes them feel like they are never going to be able to find happiness. You do not want to allow yourself to feel that way at all. If you do, you are going to end up making things seem like they are worse than they actually are.
Yes, it may be bad for you to hear that your ex girlfriend is dating again, but that is something that you can get over if you try.
What always seems to work best is for you to take your focus off of what your ex is doing. She is not your problem to worry about anymore and even if you are hoping that you will be able to get her back, now is not the time to waste on thinking about her. What I would say is that this is a good sign that no matter what, you need to mentally prepare for the possibility that your former girlfriend is not the woman you are supposed to spend your life with. There may be another woman who will end up being much more in line with what you really want in a girlfriend.
Another thing to try is to make some improvements in your life so that you are a lot more attractive to the women that you meet. This will help you to get a new girlfriend and it also may help you to impress your ex girlfriend should her new relationship not work out. That is a good thing, because then she may be interested in seeing if the two of you can be able to work things out and date one another again.
Remember that just because your ex girlfriend is seeing someone else, it does not mean that the world has come crashing down on you or that you can't find someone else to be with. It also does not mean that you can't get her back, either. It just means that you have to deal with this in a healthy manner and accept the possibility that you might have to just move on with your life and that can be a good thing in the end.