The way that a lot of men act when they are dealing with a break up situation, there is only one word that can really be used to describe it. They panic. They start to imagine the worst possible scenarios unraveling and while it is possible that things can turn out rather poorly, it doesn't have to be that bad at all and even if it is - panicking about it doesn't really do anything for you. For example, it's not uncommon for a guy to talk about how his ex girlfriend is dating someone else and he is devastated by the news and all he can do is think about how much he wants her back. And I do understand feeling that way. It's not like I or any other guy hasn't been in that kind of situation before.
But, here is the thing that you want to keep in mind. When you panic over things like that, you end up making rash decisions. You end up doing things that if you later look back on them - you are going to realize that they were really big mistakes. And you don't always get to take those things back. You don't get a mulligan, this isn't a game of golf. What happens is that your ex girlfriend can and will become disgusted with you to the point where she feels like she is completely done with you. You don't want her to feel that way if your end goal is to try to win back your ex girlfriend, right? I mean, you really cannot expect to win her back if she is disgusted with you.
Panic tends to take things out of perspective and blow them out of proportion. And it is almost always going to skew things towards the negative. Rarely does panic cause optimistic thinking. Sure, you might not have wanted the break up and sure, you might have wished that things could have worked out. Finding out that your ex girlfriend is with another man can be hard to handle. It can give you that feeling of having twisted knots in your stomach, it can even cause you to get depressed.
You can snap out of feeling that way and when you do - that is when you are actually going to have a chance of being able to win her back. Really, when do you think you are more likely to get a loving text from your ex girlfriend - when you are in panic mode or when you are calm about things and acting totally rationally? I think you know the answer to this one. Whatever you do, if you are trying to win back an ex girlfriend or even if you are just trying to be able to move on and find a new girlfriend (which can end up being the BETTER option a lot of the time), panicking about your ex girlfriend and whether or not she might be seeing someone else is not the thing to do.
But, here is the thing that you want to keep in mind. When you panic over things like that, you end up making rash decisions. You end up doing things that if you later look back on them - you are going to realize that they were really big mistakes. And you don't always get to take those things back. You don't get a mulligan, this isn't a game of golf. What happens is that your ex girlfriend can and will become disgusted with you to the point where she feels like she is completely done with you. You don't want her to feel that way if your end goal is to try to win back your ex girlfriend, right? I mean, you really cannot expect to win her back if she is disgusted with you.
Panic tends to take things out of perspective and blow them out of proportion. And it is almost always going to skew things towards the negative. Rarely does panic cause optimistic thinking. Sure, you might not have wanted the break up and sure, you might have wished that things could have worked out. Finding out that your ex girlfriend is with another man can be hard to handle. It can give you that feeling of having twisted knots in your stomach, it can even cause you to get depressed.
You can snap out of feeling that way and when you do - that is when you are actually going to have a chance of being able to win her back. Really, when do you think you are more likely to get a loving text from your ex girlfriend - when you are in panic mode or when you are calm about things and acting totally rationally? I think you know the answer to this one. Whatever you do, if you are trying to win back an ex girlfriend or even if you are just trying to be able to move on and find a new girlfriend (which can end up being the BETTER option a lot of the time), panicking about your ex girlfriend and whether or not she might be seeing someone else is not the thing to do.