have ever come across, is the fact that sometimes you end up right after the
break up feeling kind of half into the idea of just rebounding and half into the
idea of wanting to get back with your ex girlfriend. It's actually a pretty
good phase to be in. Because it is a little more freeing to be entertaining
your options than it is to be stuck on one option and shunning the possibility
of any other option unfolding.
Have Fun In This Phase -
This is a phase that can actually be a lot of fun if you let it be. It's fun to
feel like you can just as easily go out and meet someone else and be totally
happy as you could get back with your ex girlfriend and be just as happy. It's
a lot more freeing for sure and it keeps you from backsliding into needy
behaviors. This is important because acting like a needy guy doesn't really do
a whole lot for your cause if you would like to be able to date your ex
girlfriend again.
Fun Is Attractive -
Unless your ex girlfriend is the ultimate bore, then her seeing you having a
fun time post break up is actually going to be good. It's going to be
attractive because let's be upfront about this - fun is a lot more attractive
than miserable is. When Friday night rolls around, who would you rather be
with - someone who is fun or someone who drags you down into their misery and
allows that miserable feeling to color the entire night?
It Helps You Know What You Really Want -
Lastly, allowing yourself to kind of indulge in this phase of half wanting her
back and half wanting to be back out there and on the rebound lets you see what
you really want. While you might think you know what you want right now, all
it takes sometimes is one great date night with another woman to make you
realize that your ex girlfriend might not be the best match for you as far as a
relationship goes.
The phase where you feel like you want her back but you are also curious about
what else is out there is natural and it can be enlightening. Indulge in it and
have fun with it. You may find that at the end of this phase, the rebounding
is more of what you want.
Or, you might come to a solid conclusion that your ex girlfriend is who you
really want to be with. When you allow yourself to have some fun and indulge in
this phase, you allow yourself to get some real answers that are tested and
proven. So ... have fun and go out there with a smile on your face instead of
looking sad and dejected over the break up.